I had me a boy, he said he was a man
I showed him all the things he refused to understand
Whoa, and then He let ME go…
The first time I had sex after my marriage was over I felt like sending a Certified Letter to my X. I had a great need to tell him what a lazy piece of shit he really was. It was almost laughable really. I married youngish.. I guess I had set the bar pretty low. And even with my low expectations I was still usually disappointed. The X wasn’t to worried about my ‘oh-oh-oh’s’… But I didn’t dwell. I focused on other things. I didn’t know any different. I thought it was my fault.
But now- My divorce helped me realize how important it is to have Great Sex. That I didn’t deserve anything less. Sex isn’t just for men.. And by ignoring that I did myself a great disservice. 15 years of disservice. I ignored one of the most obvious facts during my marriage…
If your husband isn’t having sex with you it’s because he’s having sex with someone else. Your Oh-oh-orgasm is being provided elsewhere. Bottom line. Don’t tell yourself that it’s just because he’s stressed. Or that it’s his back hurting. Or it’s because the laundry room is messy.. The house isn’t clean. He’s had to much to drink again. You don’t talk to him respectfully enough. You spend to much money. He couldn’t find clean underwear. He has to work. (All excuses I heard…among others) Listen carefully people. If your spouse doesn’t want to screw you..they are screwing someone else. Period. End of story. Truth.
The lack of intimacy in my marriage was painful. And embarrassing. I kept it a secret. I mean every woman I talked to complained about how their husband always wanted to have sex with them. I would nod and smile in understanding..while secretly wondering how that must feel. It sounded so nice to me.. These women weren’t perfect. I had seen their laundry rooms! But their husbands still cared enough about them to want them to ‘oh’..often
What if I hadn’t gotten divorced? What if I had a received my wish (at the time) and stayed married? So maybe what my Certified Letter to my X should say is Thank You! And let me tell you…this would be the only thank you he would ever receive from me. And I might add in a little Congrats for his ‘upgrade’…I’m pretty sure she is getting what she deserves…
My Ex’s and Oh-Oh-Oh’s they haunt me
Like ghosts they want me to have’em all
They won’t let go…
Ex’s and oh’s
Divorce Shoes 